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Maid of Honor Responsibilities: Ceremony and Wedding Toast

One of the more important decisions a bride will make when planning her wedding is choosing her maid of honor. The maid of honor plays a key role in the planning process and on the wedding day. It is an honor to be asked, but before saying yes, it is a good idea to understand the maid of honor’s responsibilities and the part she plays in the wedding, including delivering the maid of honor wedding toast.

Maid of Honor Responsibilities

For many, being asked to serve as the maid of honor is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to help a friend or family member prepare for the biggest day of her life. Depending on the bride’s temperament and organizational skills, she may rely on her maid of honor to help with many aspects of the preparations, including choosing the color scheme, decorations, bridesmaid dresses, or even the venue for the reception. During the planning process, the maid of honor is often asked to assist the bride with the fittings for her gown and arrange the fittings for the other bridesmaids. In addition, the bride may need the emotional support of her maid of honor or simply need someone else’s opinion before she makes decisions. The maid of honor will be as involved in planning the details as the bride wants her to be. However, she does have some responsibilities of her own.

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The maid of honor is responsible for organizing and hosting both the bridal shower and bachelorette party. She may enlist help from the other bridal party members or the family members of the bride and groom, but she is the person who takes care of these pre-wedding events by organizing the details and paying the expenses. However, she can ask the other bridesmaids or family members to share the costs.

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Find the Perfect Wedding Officiant?

 

There’s one thing that every couple getting married needs: an officiant. There simply has to be another person to legally bring them together as one. And yes, for some couples, an Elvis impersonator in Vegas will do—but for 95% of couples, they want an officiant who means something to them, whether it’s because of religious beliefs, admiration, or because it’s someone close to them.

Those chosen can be religious, such as priests, pastors or rabbis; civil officiants such as judges, magistrates, court clerks, notaries public, or justices of the peace; professional officiants, or even a friend or family member that is ordained.

So what are the qualities couples should seek in an officiant, and where should they look? According to the wedding professionals at Blush Banquet Hall in Los Angeles, these are the differences between officiants, and here is how couples can select the right one for their specific union.

Know Where to Look

Once you and your future spouse have agreed on what kind of officiant you want (religious, civil, professional, or a friend), it’s time to find the right person. “If you don’t already have a certain person in mind, a good idea is to ask married friends for referrals,” says Avo Petrossian, owner of Blush. If this doesn’t work, there are many online officiant directories to choose from. (Be sure to read reviews on them, too.) If you’re having a friend officiate, be sure to ask someone who knows you both very well, fully supports your union, and is comfortable speaking in front of others.

 Meet Them First

“For religious officiants, it’s usually easy to find the right person,” says Petrossian. “The couple either already has someone in mind from their spiritual community, or they choose their childhood pastor or priest.” However, if you’re selecting an officiant that you’ve never met before, be sure to set up a time to meet them before your wedding. Chemistry is important, and you would never forgive yourself if the person who married you gave you an “off” or annoying vibe in person.

Know What They’ll be Saying

No matter what type of officiant you select, it’s always a good idea to ask them whatever questions you have—especially what they will be saying during the wedding ceremony. For example, if you aren’t religious, you’ll want to make sure they don’t mention anything spiritual. And if you don’t want them to toss in jokes or silly comments, that should be discussed. By asking up front, you’ll be able to ensure nothing is said during the ceremony that you’ll regret.

Have a Backup

“One thing that we always tell our couples is to have a backup officiant if they want someone personal to them,” says Petrossian. “If your chosen officiant gets sick or cancels shortly before the wedding, you’ll want to have someone else equally meaningful in mind to take their place.”

Hopefully, this helps you on your journey to choosing the right officiant for your wedding! It’s one thing if you just want someone to make it official, but it’s another if you want someone who means something to you. If that’s the route you want to take, just be sure it’s someone that you both like and are comfortable with, and go over what they will be saying on your big day. Good luck!

– Avo Vardanyan

 

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The Perfect Wedding Toast: A Beginner’s Guide

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When your friend bestows the honor of the wedding toast upon you, it should spark feelings of respect and accomplishment. However, most people feel a deep sense of dread at the notion of getting up in front of a large gathering during a lifetime event and giving the couple their send-off. Public speaking is a common fear, and when you add the fact that this is the event that ties two lives together, it’s only natural to be a little scared.

A million fears and questions can play out through your mind. Will you forget your speech halfway through? Will your palms start sweating? Will you shake so badly that your words come out in staggered bursts? Will you mumble? How much eye contact is enough? How should you move around? How do you gesture? Should you speak quickly or slowly? Are jokes okay? How sentimental is too sentimental? How long should this speech even be?

But fear not; the perfect wedding toast is just a few tips away. Before getting into that, what does a wedding toast entail? A wedding toast is given generally before the meal to commemorate the marriage, offer some personal backstory and wish the couple well. That means that your speech should cover these three points. It’ll be less intimidating to think of the speech in increments rather than worrying about the whole package.

Start off by thinking of what you want to talk about. Don’t worry about the actual performance yet. Think about what stories you would like to share. This research period will probably take you a few days. If you rush this part, you’re going to have a weak speech to deliver come wedding day. Instead, give yourself a little time to remember how you all met, anything in their relationship that stands out, any words of wisdom you can impart and your overall sentiment towards the couple. Above all, your words must be genuine. If you fall into trite verse or make the speech impersonal, you’re going to leave your friends with a sour taste. Always keep in mind that this is an event that often comes once a lifetime, and you don’t want to butcher it by not making the right time investment in your speech.
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Quiet A Bride’s Greatest Wedding Day Fears

Your wedding day is meant to be one of the happiest days of your life. It’s portrayed as a fairytale-like dream come true, celebrating the love you and your partner share with your closest friends and family. But beyond all the happiness and joy of the day is a great deal of stress and fear. The pressure of knowing you are the center of attention and everyone is there to witness you tie the knot can be terrifying and cause a bride to become scared on what’s supposed to be a joyous occasion. There are several common fears that many brides experience but don’t worry – take a deep breath and everything will be okay.

You Won’t Look Perfect

As you walk down the aisle, every single person will be looking at you. You’ve spent ages carefully selecting the perfect dress, shoes, hairstyle and makeup look for your big day. Not looking absolutely perfect on your wedding day is without a doubt one of the most common bridal fears. What if your dress and shoes don’t fit how they’re supposed to? Or what if you’re having a bad hair day and your hairstylist can’t achieve the look you had your heart set on? Or – worst of all – what if you wake up with a huge zit on your face? These are all huge concerns for every bride-to-be and, thankfully, the likelihood of any of these things happening is very low. Prepare for your wedding by trying on your dress and shoes beforehand and holding a hair and makeup trial run. By not waiting until the day of to do these things you will be able to alleviate some of the worries you’ll have of not looking perfect on your big day. And if you do happen to wake up with a pimple or dark eye circles, your makeup artist should be able to cover it up expertly.

 

 

People Won’t Show Up

Another extremely common fear for brides is that people (both guests and vendors) aren’t going to show up. If guests RSVPed yes and didn’t show up, you would feel sad and embarrassed that people didn’t feel the need to attend your wedding. If your vendors didn’t show up, it would ruin the entire day. Although it’s possible that some of your guests may not show up, remember that the people who you chose to invite to your wedding are people who love you and would want nothing more than to be able to celebrate with you. To help give your guests a gentle reminder that your nuptials are coming up, send out an email or letter outlining the details of the big day, such as directions to the venue, a schedule of events and accommodations for the out of town guests. To prevent your vendors from flaking on you, make sure you call them before the wedding to reconfirm all details and to also provide them with additional information such as itineraries and schedules, venue location and parking information.
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20 Memorable Quotes For Your Wedding Toast

It’s normal for the bride and groom to be nervous and emotional on their wedding day. But if you’ve been tasked with giving the toast, you are probably just as nervous! Speaking in front of a huge group of people is incredibly nerve-wracking. Instead of trying to write the toast from your own limited resources, it can be helpful to borrow words from poets or other writers who have spoken about love. Since you probably know the bride and/or groom fairly well, you can share a humorous anecdote from their past, for example, how they met, how one pursued the other, or how the three of you used to pal around together, etc. Once you have captivated the audience, you can get a bit more serious and start talking about your wishes for their future together. There are tons of quotes about love and marriage that you can find to suit your particular needs. Here are 20 noteworthy quotes to consider including in your wedding toast.

1. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance. – 1 Corinthians 13:7

2. There’s nothing more admirable than two people who see eye to eye keeping house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends. – Homer

3. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. – Mignon McLaughlin

 

4. One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love. – Sophocles

5. To keep your marriage brimming with love in the cup, whenever you’re wrong admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up. – Ogden Nash

6. A good marriage is at least 80 percent good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust. – Nanette Newman

7. But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. – Khalil Gibran

8. In our life, there is a single color, as on an artist’s palette, which provides the meaning of life and art. It is the color of love. – Marc Chagall

 

9. Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. – Victor Borge

10. You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because your reality is finally better than your dreams. – Dr. Seuss

11. To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with. – Mark Twain

12. There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage. – Martin Luther

13. Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile. – Elizabeth Barret Browning

14. The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. – Audrey Hepburn

15. No road is long with good company. – Turkish proverb

16. You can’t stay mad at somebody who makes you laugh. – Jay Leno

17. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. – George Sand

18. When love reigns, the impossible may be attained. – Indian proverb

19. We never live so intensely as when we love strongly. We never realize ourselves so vividly as when we are in full glow of love for others. – Walter Rauschenbusch

20. Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Remember that when you are giving the wedding toast, your friends’ family members will be in the reception hall. So, above all else, maintain a certain air of decorum. Grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles, and even mom and dad do not want to hear inappropriate stories about the bride’s or the groom’s crazy college escapades or spring break visits to Cancun. So, make sure you keep the contents of your toast classy! These 20 quotes are all lovely choices to include in your toast and are sure to please everyone in the crowd, especially the bride and groom.